Women (men too if you like), why not wear our sieves with pride? Who knows what forms of household transcendence it could lead to. In fact it is clear to me that this particular manifestation of the Domestic Goddess (Wren Miller’s tribute to International Women’s Day) has much to teach us. But more of that in a moment. First a little about her creator, fellow Shropshire-dweller and eco artist, Wren Miller. Wren is a specialist in large-scale sculptures (i.e. bigger than this one which is a domestic piece in more ways that one). Her materials are found things, or donated possessions such as books or even old trainers. They are not altered in any way, but ‘compiled’ into witty and spirit-raising structures somewhere on a landscape near you (if you’re lucky). She also creates art works in Mali, West Africa. The resultant creations are usually temporary, with the aim of sending the component parts on to a good home. For instance, Wren’s children’s book sculptures have later been shipped off to Mali where many children would otherwise never see a story book, let alone get to hold one in their own two hands. Through her ‘Send a Book to Mali’ scheme she collects books in both English and French. For more about Wren and her creations go to: http://www.wrenmillerart.co.uk/
Now to get back to to why Wren’s domestic goddess so took my fancy. Well quite apart from the fact she is beautiful and made me laugh, which are two good reasons for sharing her, it seemed to me that there were several points of congruence with my ‘womanplace’ posts. As is often the way with goddesses, this one gave me a whole new slant on things. She made me look at what I had written, but this time in relation to my own usually negative attitudes towards housework. For isn’t it an irony that in the industrialised world where we have more labour-saving, domestic gadgets than time or spare hands to use them, we generally consider doing housework an act of drudgery that makes us both ratty and resentful? We see the whole thing as an imposition that denies us the leisure time we believe we are owed. So when we see women in non-technologised rural communities filling every waking hour with heavy manual labour we are appalled. We identify with their plight, in our minds multiplying our own sense of oppression several times over. It is a concerned/outraged/kindly response: the ‘why should they still live like that?’
Now this is in no way to deny that millions of rural women work grindingly hard. But along with their labours they also take great pride in their domestic practices and skills. This may seem perverse to many of us, but an African woman might well be offended if a man offered to carry her heavy load of firewood; she might take it as a slight that she is not capable of doing her work properly. Indeed research has shown that African women carry loads on their heads that should not, at least in theory, be physically possible in relation to the deemed weight-bearing capacity of their spinal columns and their often poor levels of nutrition. Yet in the face of all the scientific data that tell them they can’t, carry those loads they do.
Here’s another instance. By our standards we might think it unquestionably good that village women are saved long trips to fetch water from the river by constructing a well near their homes. But again, this might not be wholly true. A good friend in development agriculture once told me how, in a village where he worked, the women were very put out by the provision of a new well. It meant they could no longer justify spending hours away from home, time they spent meaningfully with other women as they drew water, or did the washing, or bathed their children. How could they discuss all the personal matters they usually discussed, and at the length they discussed them, in the middle of the village with all the men around? All of which boils down to being careful how we think other people’s problems can best be fixed.
Of course once we realise this, there is also a possible payoff, at least for us, the housework haters. In fact we could well learn something of great utility from the women we feel sorry for. It’s obvious really, but if we honour the fact of doing our ironing in the way a Maasai woman honours the building and maintainence of her home, or take pride in the hoovering of carpets in the way a Kikuyu farmwife scrupulously sweeps her compound, we might well find ourselves on the path to domestic deification; at the very least we’d feel happier in the doing of such work: ‘our day’s career’ as Faith Waithera says in my Power-play poem (…of womanplace). So as I said at the beginning, let’s wear our sieves with pride, but before I go here’s another image of transcendent womanhood:
text: copyright Tish Farrell 2013
8 thoughts on “…of a domestic goddess”
Tish great to see Wren’s Goddess!!! ~As well as all your gorgeous images.And I agree with your discussion around work. I have had quite a budhist response to domestic chores in that yes I value them for the simple tasks that they are and the opportunity they give me to wind down or create order in my life……thank you for your discussion though as it focusses again on these issues and they are SO important….Sheilagh
Thank you for your comments, Sheilagh. So nice to see you here.
Oh I do wish I could be OK about housework – it remains such a problem for me. I am one of those women who become angry and resentful if I feel I’m doing too much. I see your point however, I’m not sure I’m ready to change just yet. I am sitting at the computer surrounded by a sea of dog hairs, dust and crumbs feeling a little guilty and though I very much like Wren’s breast sieves, I wouldn’t want to wear them. Perhaps choice is an issue here. My mother had to leave school at 15 to look after the family when her mother died and I swore I would not be a slave to housework. Anyhow, as always, you’ve given me plenty to think about and I’m rambling now, so I’ll sign off. Thanks for yet another really interesting piece on your blog. Kate x.
actually, after writing this piece I had some very bad words to say about my hoover…
you made me smile with
this genial sculpture
and your comment:
“…we generally consider
doing housework an act of drudgery
that makes us both ratty and resentful…”
Glad you liked her, Frizz, and thanks for reading.
Tolerance and respect – our way is not necessarily the right way.
Yes indeed, Lynne.